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Oct 23, 2012 10:45 AM

We have a beautiful 6 year old daughter who is very shy when she's outside of our home, and we are also seeing that she is a perfectionist in school. To compound the situation, she is also very strong willed. We read Dr. Dobson's book and worked through the 2 and 3 year old years - they were tough, but we won the battle. She is very respectful and obedient now 95% of the time, but if life doesn't go her way, she gets very upset.? At home, she'll stomp into her room and yell or occasionally tell us how mean we are for not giving her what she wants. We can handle that...but at school, when those things happen, she just shuts down - goes silent. We talk with her teacher regularly and she's very helpful and understanding. She recognizes Sydney's tendencies and is doing her best. But we're also recently seeing that she is a perfectionist in her school work!? So the strong-willed personality, perfectionism, and shyness all collide in a perfect storm that makes school very stressful for her. :-/? When she's struggling with getting something perfect, she won't ask for help because she's shy.? Her teacher is trying to watch her more closely and offer to help when she can tell she's struggling.? It seems to be getting a little better as the year goes on, but I just wondered if anyone has advice for how to help a child who struggles with everything being perfect.? She's not like that in every area of her life - but it seems to be when others are going to look at her work. Sydney and I are pretty opposite in personality and in almost every way... and I'm really struggling to relate to her.? We are so different that I often feel at a loss with how to properly parent her. Any words of wisdom or resources to read would be very welcome!

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